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22/12/2017

Christmas is supposed to be a time of peace and goodwill to all men (and women) but too often, family divisions can mar Christmas celebrations for children when relationships break down.

According to figures from the Office of National Statistics, around 100,000 children per year see their parents divorcing, with many of those families breaking up immediately after a last Christmas together.

Harbinder Gosal, a Senior Associate in our family team, is one of a number of lawyers expecting a surge in divorce enquiries in the New Year. As she explains, it’s an issue that will affect more than the 100,000 children quoted by the ONS.

“There are many more children who will be affected by family breakdown this Christmas who aren’t shown in those statistics as their parents are not married.   

“While a break-up may offer hope of ending a difficult time, too often it marks the start of a new challenge, with couples engaged in a drawn-out and contentious process, instead of collaborating to find common ground.  

“For many families, the final Christmas will be marked by arguments and behaviour that may come to be used as an example of the unreasonable behaviour that will form grounds for divorce,” she said.

To secure a divorce, a marriage must be shown to have broken down irretrievably, with most being ‘fault-based’ - adultery, unreasonable behaviour and the rarely-used fact of desertion. 

The only alternative is a period of separation of at least two years before issuing the divorce petition, but separate living arrangements can be difficult to achieve before assets have been divided through the process of divorce. 

And while the break-up for unmarried couples appears to offer a simpler exit strategy, it underlines the lack of legal protection for cohabiting partners.  

Harbinder explained: “There have been calls for a change in the law to allow for ‘no fault’ divorce without long separation, with those advocating the change arguing this could reduce animosity and provide a better environment for children."

“Most recently Baroness Hale, the first female president of the Supreme Court, spoke out to say that the law should be changed to address injustices, including ‘no fault’ divorce, statutory backing for pre-nuptial contracts and greater rights for cohabiting partners, who have been shown to be at greater risk after a break-up, with few routes for financial protection."

“Unmarried couples who have children together do have remedies for financial provision for the children available under Schedule 1 of the Children Act 1989. Many people who have been living together for any length of time, sharing a home and bringing up children, think they have some special rights through a ‘common law marriage’. But there are no such protections unless something is legally owned between the two of you – for example if your name is on the title deeds for a property, as joint tenants or tenants in common, or if you have a jointly named savings account."

"The lack of financial remedy for cohabiting couples is often the biggest issue. While a parent can be made to contribute to the maintenance of their children, there is no such protection for a former partner to claim maintenance if they cannot work while bringing up the children of the relationship. Similarly, they may find themselves with nowhere to live.” 

She added: “Whether starting out, or in a committed relationship, and whether married or cohabiting, it’s sensible to think about protecting assets through a pre or post nuptial agreement or a cohabitation agreement.  

“For many couples, simply having the frank discussion that goes into making such an agreement can help to create a positive, open attitude in a relationship from the start.  While pre or post nuptial agreements are not yet binding in the UK, they have increasing weight after being tested in the courts.” 

And for those couples anticipating their last Christmas together, the advice is to seek collaborative approaches to arrangements for both children and financial matters. 

For divorcing couples, mediation will usually involve sorting out such arrangements separately from the actual divorce proceedings, with the resulting agreement likely to be presented to the courts for a formal consent order to be made. 

“Collaboration and mediation is the best way to face up to the pain of separation.  Most couples find it’s a way to get things sorted out more quickly and easily, and helps to put children’s interests first,” added Harbinder

“The actual process of divorce has become much simpler in recent years, and many couples are taking a DIY approach, but involving a specialist mediator, and having guidance over your rights, can make the difference between a good or bad break-up, particularly where children are involved, and that’s true for cohabiting couples too.”

If you have any concerns this Christmas, our family team are on hand to offer guidance. Contact Harbinder on 01902 392420 or h.gosal@fbcmb.co.uk

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